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Think BIGGER

 Have been thinking…..


Am 60 now and probably have a fifth of my life left before am too feeble to keep the quality of life I have enjoyed all these years.


So I decided a few months ago that i shall think BIGGER (I mean BGR). 


The BGR principle. 


no Bitterness 

no Guilt 

no Regrets 


And thanks to this there is no Brooding, no worries in the manner of speaking and an amazing ability to accept as it comes and prioritize only the most important things in our remaining “quinmester” of life. 


Am only human, a fallible one at that and have made spur of moment decisions, have been spontaneous and even led myself to be charmed by someone’s inescapable mystique, and made judgements that I can brood all day. I could also feel bitter about the opportunities I passed up in life or the way someone treated me. Is there a point in this last fifth of my healthy life?


I could also keep feeling I’ve been a bad brother, a bad father, a bad husband, a bad boss or colleague or even a bad person. Am sure I have behaved badly at times and let my own pressures get to me. They say during matchmaking, they check if the marriage will last for at least 20 years and if so then it’s considered a good match and marriage. By that count I’ve been a good spouse. Am sure we could have similar metrics for our other roles we have played in life and if you’ve been earnest and sincere you would score pretty OK I think . And that is really the essence of the life lived. 


In the last quinmester of one’s life, we should be “reborn” as the shastras say and pursue like a child what we missed i.e., our (spriritual?) bucket list. So think BIGGER…. Oops! I meant “think BGR”, I guess….😊

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